function addFriends(ids){
                $j.post("/friend/add", {id: ids }, function($data)
                            {
                              $j('#addFI'+ids).html('<div class="flash_info">'+$data+'</div>');
                            });
    }
    function delFriends(ids){
                $j.post("/friend/delete", {id: ids }, function($data)
                            {
                              $j('#addFI'+ids).html('<div class="flash_info">'+$data+'</div>');
                            });
    }

    function allowFriends(ids){
                $j.post("/friend/approve", {id: ids }, function($data)
                            {
                              $j('#addFI'+ids).html('<div class="flash_info">'+$data+'</div>');
                            });
    }